We often get told we are ‘people pleasing’. But what does this actually mean? We think the term has become overused and we want to encourage you to take the time to dig a little deeper. You may well find quite a lot more going on under the surface… We can see that our behaviours … Continue reading Is it really people pleasing?
Category: Traumatism
Posts relating to trauma, autism, complex PTSD and DID
Difficult
‘You’re being difficult’, ‘you are difficult.’‘You’re stubborn’, ‘you’re rigid’, ‘you’re being black and white’.Just a list of more ways we are difficult.‘You’re too much’, ‘you’re hard work’, ‘you’re exhausting’. Difficult. Difficult. Difficult. We can detect the exasperation in a person’s voice long before they know it is there. We can feel the wall of internal … Continue reading Difficult
The DDA is on its way!!
Happy DID awareness day everyone! We have some exciting news to share with you. Since October a small group of volunteers, of which we are a part, have been meeting regularly and working hard to start a charity for and by people with dissociative disorders, their supporters and professionals working in the field - The … Continue reading The DDA is on its way!!
A bit more on derealisation, depersonalisation and amnesia
Last month we shared our experience of navigating life when our system feels under threat. We explored how it feels to live disconnected from body and sensing and how, building our tolerance for reconnecting - re-associating, could lead us back to ourselves and maybe in time, even allow us to stay there. This month we … Continue reading A bit more on derealisation, depersonalisation and amnesia
On derealisation, depersonalisation and amnesia
TW: mentions abuse and self harm - no descriptions. Our system has felt under threat over the last few months and has gone into defcon 1, high level alert, code red! It thinks it is fighting for our life again and is pulling out all the dissociative weapons at its disposal. This has meant living … Continue reading On derealisation, depersonalisation and amnesia
What we are learning
We have had the privilege to connect with some other systems recently. It has been and continues to be the most wonderful and precious experience for us. For the first time that we can remember there is a real sense of belonging, of being seen and wanting to be seen, of being part of something. … Continue reading What we are learning
When ‘Happy Birthdays’ are more than just ‘Happy’!
Our birthday is not far away and it raises a lot of mixed feelings for us. There is the excitement of celebrations, surprises and seeing friends. But there is so much more to our Birthday than this. There is the resentment of celebrating a day that many of us wished had never happened. Alongside this … Continue reading When ‘Happy Birthdays’ are more than just ‘Happy’!
Life with DID
TW: One of the questions asks about ‘getting rid’ of other parts - short answer no way!! The answer to the third question alludes to self harm but no details are shared. A friend recently asked us some questions about our life with DID. As we mulled them over we discussed them with another friend … Continue reading Life with DID
A new challenge!
We have been challenged to start posting on our blog without running our writing past anyone first. We want and need to develop trust and confidence in ourselves, particularly when it comes to sharing our thoughts and our ability to write. We are so convinced that we do not make sense, that we need ‘translating’ … Continue reading A new challenge!
Sick
TW: Contains brief description of trauma triggers. No one enjoys getting sick. We finally succumbed to COVID last week and have been reflecting on our responses to it. First comes the usual fear and anger towards ourselves. Will we be in trouble? Are we really unwell or just making it up? Are we unwell enough … Continue reading Sick